(This was from my MS support group I chaired last week)
“Fighting reality only creates suffering. While pain is inevitable in life, suffering is optional. “And suffering is what happens when we refuse to accept the pain in our lives,”
Close your eyes and think about being diagnosed with MS
Think about the difficulties you encountered
Think about the hurt, pain and suffering you’ve experienced because of it
Think about all the medications and treatments you’ve tried
Think about how many times you’ve gotten your hope up for some miracle cure only to be let down
Think about all the time you’ve been angry, depressed or lost because of having MS
Now open your eyes.
You still have MS
So does everyone else in this room
Nothing has changed
simply because you deny it exists.
It is still there, waiting for you to deal with it.
“When you open yourself up to accepting the present moment precisely as it is, with no judgments, you are free to look at all of those puzzle pieces of the present moment and start to piece them together. “
What if instead of having all of that, you simply decided to radically accept your reality that is having MS?
Acceptance isn’t giving up
It isn’t resigning yourself to the illness
It is simply accepting that whatever is happening is happening
Acceptance is about letting go of the person you thought you were and the life you thought you had and making the most of the one you actually have
Some helpful strategies to practice radical self acceptance:
Acknowledge and learn how to cope with negative thoughts and feelings
Rewrite your story
Find activities that you enjoy
Spend time with the people you love and that make you happy
I’m not even close to being there yet…but I want to be